Nonviolent Communication in Relationships – Restoring Connection

Marga Hogenhuis
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Do you feel increasingly distant from your partner and long for real connection again?Then nonviolent communication is exactly the approach that can support you as a woman between 30 and 55 who wants to break relationship patterns and find herself again.

I’m Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra – integrative therapist in Purmerend, Amsterdam and online – and I help you communicate with softness and strength through integrative therapy, hypnotherapy and self-love tools.In this blog, you’ll discover how nonviolent communication can help you reconnect.

Naming the Problem and Finding Recognition

Maybe this sounds familiar. You say something to your partner and notice that the conversation instantly shifts into misunderstandings or blame. You feel misunderstood, rejected or powerless. It’s as if you keep repeating the same pattern: one comment leads to another and you long for calm and connection again.

For women facing relationship struggles, this can feel heavy. You want your needs to be heard, you want to experience self-love, and you want to reconnect with the other person.Nonviolent communication helps you bridge that gap step by step.

Causes and Background

Why does communication derail so easily?Often it comes from patterns: automatic reactions, old wounds, childhood trauma and unmet needs beneath the surface.

The method of nonviolent communication, developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg, works with four elements:

Observation
Feeling
Need
Request

When we slip into judgment, demands or blame, connection gets blocked and we stop truly hearing each other.The result is distance, frustration and loneliness instead of connection.

What Happens When You Change Nothing

If you continue communicating from old patterns without shifting them, the connection with your partner keeps fading. You may feel increasingly unseen.Emotional distance grows.

And within yourself, you may also lose connection — losing sight of how you feel or what you need.Over time this can lead to burnout, exhaustion or the belief that your relationship is “beyond repair.”

When nothing changes, the pattern reinforces itself.Growth becomes impossible.

The Solution

There is hope.Nonviolent communication can help you reconnect — with yourself and with your partner.

In my work as an integrative therapist in Purmerend, Amsterdam and online, I see how women between 30 and 55 who are ready to break relationship patterns and find themselves again, begin to flourish through this approach.

How We Work Together

1. You learn to observe without judging.

See what is actually happening.

2. You name your feeling.

How does the situation affect you?

3. You discover your need.

What do you truly long for?

4. You formulate a request.

What would you like from your partner — clear, concrete and positive?

And with support:

I guide you through integrative therapy and hypnotherapy.
You learn self-love tools that strengthen your emotional resilience.
You can choose an in-person trajectory or online sessions.

These steps help you communicate with clarity and kindness. You stay true to yourself and open to the other.The result is more connection, fewer accusations and deeper presence.

Ready to Restore Connection?

Do you want to heal the communication in your relationship and connect in a new way?Book an online session with me — Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra, integrative therapist in Purmerend, Amsterdam and online — and together we’ll explore how you can transform your communication and return to yourself and your partner.

About Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra

I’m Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra, integrative therapist in Purmerend, Amsterdam and online.I support women between 30 and 55 who want to break relationship patterns and reconnect with themselves.

My specializations include relationship patterns, childhood trauma, self-love, integrative therapy and hypnotherapy.I offer warm, compassionate and accessible guidance so you can reconnect — with yourself and with your loved one.

FAQ

Question: What if my partner doesn’t want to practice nonviolent communication?

It can be enough for you to begin.Your shift in communication can invite connection.And once your partner notices that it works, openness often follows naturally.

Question: How soon will I see results?

Results vary per person and situation.Many women notice more inner calm and more effective communication within just a few sessions.Deeper patterns may take a little longer.

Question: What if I keep falling back into my old reactions?

Falling back is normal when learning a new way of communicating.

By approaching it gently and exploring where the triggers lie, you can grow step by step.

Therapy helps you recognize your patterns and respond with more self-compassion.

Growth is rarely linear — but every conscious step counts.