Why Do I Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner?

Do you find yourself choosing the wrong partner again and again? I’m Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra, an integrative therapist based in Purmerend, Amsterdam, and online. I help women break their unconscious relationship patterns so they no longer attract the wrong relationships, but instead welcome healthy, nurturing love.

Why Do I Keep Ending Up in the Wrong Relationships?

This is a question I hear often in my practice. And honestly? It’s a very good question. Because it’s usually not about your taste in partners or simply bad luck. Often there’s something much deeper going on – an old pattern.An unconscious script you learned a long time ago.

Want to know why you keep choosing the wrong partner or how to break your relationship patterns? Keep reading.

The Pattern That Keeps Repeating

You might recognize this:

• You’re always drawn to the “wrong” types.

• You feel attracted to people who are emotionally unavailable.

• You do everything to make the other person happy, yet you end up feeling emptier and emptier yourself.

That’s no coincidence.Behind every choice in love lies an inner program, a pattern that once helped you feel safe, loved, or simply survive.And that exact pattern keeps repeating, until you recognize it.

It Often Starts in Childhood

As a child, you unconsciously develop beliefs about love, safety, and connection.For example:

• Love must be earned.

• You have to adapt yourself to belong.

• If you try hard enough, the other person will eventually come to you.

These beliefs settle deep in your system.They become your love compass, even as an adult.And as long as you don’t change this inner blueprint, you’ll keep attracting the same type of partner, just in a different form.

It’s Not Your Fault (But It Is Your Responsibility)

These patterns aren’t born out of weakness, but out of wisdom.They once helped you survive.But now it’s time to learn something new:Choosing connection that nourishes instead of drains you.

That requires self-awareness, self-love, and new choices.

Breaking What No Longer Serves You

As an integrative therapist, I help you to:

• Recognize your unconscious patterns.

• Heal the root cause.

• Reset your love compass.

So you no longer have to survive in love, but can receive what truly feels right, love that feels safe. Equal. Supportive. Love where you can be your full self.

FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions About Choosing the Wrong Partner

Why do I keep attracting the same type of partner?This often comes from unconscious patterns you developed in childhood. With integrative therapy, you learn to recognize and break these patterns.

Can I learn to attract healthy relationships?Yes. By replacing old beliefs and working on self-love, you naturally attract different types of relationships. In my sessions, I give you practical tools to achieve this.

Why Am I Attracting the Wrong Partner?

Ask yourself:What in me keeps attracting this?And:What do I need to break this pattern?

You don’t have to do it alone. Would you like to discover which pattern you unconsciously keep repeating?Send me a message, and we’ll look together at what you need right now.

Do You Long For:

• Deep, mutual love.

• Finally having peace in your relationships.

• The freedom to be yourself without fear of abandonment or rejection.

• Healing old beliefs and creating space for something new.

• Practical and profound support that is lovingly confronting.

If this feels familiar, let’s talk about how you can start attracting something different.Click the link below to schedule a session:

About Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra

I’m an integrative therapist specializing in breaking persistent relationship patterns, often rooted in childhood trauma or attachment issues. From my practice in Purmerend, Amsterdam, and online, I help women recognize, heal, and replace patterns with healthy choices. Using a blend of integrative therapy, hypnotherapy, and practical self-love tools, I guide you toward relationships that are safe, nurturing, and equal.

How I Can Help You:

• Give you insight into your unconscious relationship patterns.

• Help heal old emotional wounds.

• Teach you to set healthy boundaries.

• Reset your love compass to what truly feels good.

• Provide practical tools and exercises to maintain lasting change.

Ready to stop attracting the wrong partner and open yourself to love that truly feels right?Schedule a free consultation through the link below or send me a message.

Marga Hogenhuis-Flokstra – Integrative therapist for women who want to break patterns and reconnect with themselves.

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